As a public advocate for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I’m often asked to give interviews. I’ve done local and regional newspapers, local and online radio shows, heck I’ve even been on national T.V.! Whoop dee do, right?! My feelings exactly. So have mass murderers and folks with no teeth and no shirt explaining how tornados sound. (some of which were my relatives by the way!)
Even less talented folks get syndicated T.V. shows making hundreds of thousands of dollars an episode. So you ask, why do I tell you about giving an interview? Because every once in a while, when the planets are aligned and you tilt your head the right way. It all comes together and something good comes from it!
Such was the case this Monday, April 29th, 2013. I was asked by another advocate for survivors of CSA to appear on her radio show to do an interview. She wanted me to tell my story of abuse, teach parents how to better protect their children from sexual predators…the usual path for my regular interview. But this one turned out to be anything but ordinary.
I have grown to know and respect Trish McKnight over the last couple of years as we crossed paths several times doing similar endeavors to raise awareness for our mutual cause. But with April being Child Abuse Awareness month, she wanted to make sure her slate was full of folks that were either experts in the field, had been running organizations to benefit survivors, were survivors of CSA themselves or some combination of all the above. It’s been a pretty steady cast of folks I respect and admire, so when she asked me to be a part, I was humbled. As any survivor can tell you, we have a hard time accepting our own self-worth. And this for me was no exception.
But I deferred to her wisdom, and to benefit those who receive help from the efforts of “Together We Heal”, and said, “sure! I’d be happy to do the interview with you!”
It began as most do, she had an overview of what TWH does, who it benefits, how we help survivors, etc. And throughout, everything ran perfectly. We had callers, we had those with input from online. Trish and I had good chemistry on-air. And I genuinely enjoyed the entire hour and a half we talked. And we TALKED! Non-stop the whole time! It was great! We gave a lot of important information to help parents, we talked with a caller on how we could help their child. I’m telling you, it was perfect. Or so I thought.
After we went off the air. The emails, calls, tweets came pouring in! Folks were reaching out locally and from one end of an ocean to another. The U.K., New Zealand, Venezuela, you name it, we were being inundated with comments about the show, and ALL of them were positive. Which is exactly what you want. To reach as many folks as you can in an effort to help as many as possible. But not EXACTLY what you want when you are in the business to help people. Don’t get me wrong, those encouragements mean the world to me. They are a part of what keeps us going. But there was something missing, something major.
But then, as the calls, emails and tweets started to decline, there in the midst of them was IT. THE reason why myself, Trish, Rachel, Bill, Marci, Andrew, Margie, Blair, Patricia, and so many to name here its impossible to list them all, get up each morning and do what it is we do. A simple, short email stating…
…I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I need help. Can you help me?
Then shortly after that, a second email and a third, all asking the same thing. All with their own unique, yet similar stories. We have been sexually abused and we need your help.
I immediately responded and will be arranging for their individual needs over the next week. But that’s not the point. The point is that either they were listening to the show, or someone who cares about them was, made a point to get our contact info and then followed up, making sure they had the ability to reach out to us. That’s love folks. That’s people who care about their family and/or friends.
And that’s why we do interviews.
Because we never know when someone who desperately needs our help will be listening. The point – don’t EVER pass on an opportunity because you might not get a second chance. You’ve heard the phrase, either from the Robin Williams movie, “The Dead Poets Society”, or from Latin class if your old enough, Carpe Diem – Seize the Day. Make the most of every opportunity you have. It’s when you least expect it that you get that surprise. The opportunity to help your fellow man or woman. Don’t ever waste that moment.
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May 1, 2013 at 2:03 pm
David, it was certainly my pleasure to have you join me for a discussion on the show. What is even more valued my friend, WE MADE CONTACT WITH THOSE WHO WERE LOOKING FOR HELP!!! This is indeed why we keep the shows going, have a huge variety of guests & topics, also why I’ve put all I have into making it a huge success. I attended a morning training yesterday and the presenter I met, Ms. Pamela Dorsey; Sexual Assault Educator & Prevention Specialist, U.S. Air Force; shared this simple but powerful statement ‘You never know whose life your going to touch’. This is why it is necessary to keep the information and education circling across the net, in hope we can help just one or empower just one to get through the next 5 minutes. David you are an amazing soul and filled with excellent useful knowledge for parents and teens, giving our kids the power to protect themselves from those ADULTS WITH TOUCHING PROBLEMS!!! Fascinated by all you shared, thanks so much for joining me and for this truly heart touching write up. A marvelous happy ending 😉
May 1, 2013 at 2:17 pm
I could not agree more with everything you said. And thank you so much for the kind words. It was a joy to work with you Monday and it really wasn’t “work” at all. For us to see all the efforts of the MANY it takes to pull off a show like yours, it was a blessing. I am currently setting up therapy for multiple survivors that contacted us based on your show. You ARE reaching lives and helping survivors. Thank you for allowing TWH to play a role in that endeavor. I know that we will continue to work together until one day there won’t be a need for what we do. Until then, let’s work our tails off to educate parents, expose these predators and help survivors in any way we can! God bless you and peace be with you always!