Together We Heal is for any who suffer from the trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse. We are here to provide a safe forum for survivors of abuse to share, learn and heal, give direction to those seeking guidance and to expose sexual predators for what they are and their methods of getting into our lives.
As the wonderful person who shared this with me perfectly stated, “If you don’t need it now, you will at some time in your life.”
I have never said this before on the website, but…this is a MUST READ.
Its beauty is in its simplicity and honesty. I wish I had been given this insightful advice many years ago as I dealt with grief and loss of all kinds. Thank you Teryn O’Brien for writing this amazing article. I believe Teryn’s words, when applied, can help you navigate through rough seas.
In 2006 David took the first step in acknowledging the sexual abuse that was perpetrated against him from the ages of 12 to 15. During those 3 years, the foundation his family had worked so hard to build within him was destroyed by one man, his youth minister. The result was his heart, mind and faith were lost. After having kept this secret for more than 25 years, he was finally able to reveal to his family and friends the reason behind the addiction and self-destruction that at times had him incarcerated, eventually left him destitute and nearly ended his life.
Fortunately he was blessed with amazing friends and a loving family who helped him get the help and therapy he so desperately needed. He was finally able to get clean from the grip of addiction and face the demon of sexual abuse that had clouded his life for so long. Now he and his wife work to aid their fellow survivors through the non-profit they created, Together We Heal.
The mission of Together We Heal is to provide guidance for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, educating parents and all adults through public speaking on matters concerning Childhood Sexual Abuse and giving a safe forum for victims of abuse to share, learn and heal.
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2 thoughts on “15 Things I Wish I’d Known About Grief”
Thank you. I really needed to read this today. I will add this to my other lists about grief and healing.
My first lists is from Therese A. Rando, Treatment of Complicated Mourning (1993), Research Press, Champaign, IL, p. 27–28 …
The following are myths about grief and mourning:
· Grief and mourning decline in a steadily decreasing fashion over time.
· All losses prompt the same type of mourning.
· Bereaved individuals need only express their feelings in order to resolve their mourning.
· To be healthy after the death of a loved one, the mourner must put that person out of mind.
· Grief will affect the mourner psychologically but will not interfere in other ways.
· Intensity and length of mourning are a testimony to love for the deceased.
· When one mourns a death, one mourns only the loss of that person and nothing else.
· Losing someone to a sudden, unexpected death is the same as losing someone to an anticipated death.
· Mourning is over in a year.
· Time heals all wounds.
My second list is from Common Misconceptions about Healing – by Dee Ann Miller, RN, BS and can be viewed at the following link …
The anonymous musings of one mom holding the hand of Christ while facing chronic illness and trying to help guide her family to healing from sexual abuse.
December 4, 2013 at 12:50 pm
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December 9, 2013 at 9:13 am
Thank you. I really needed to read this today. I will add this to my other lists about grief and healing.
My first lists is from Therese A. Rando, Treatment of Complicated Mourning (1993), Research Press, Champaign, IL, p. 27–28 …
The following are myths about grief and mourning:
· Grief and mourning decline in a steadily decreasing fashion over time.
· All losses prompt the same type of mourning.
· Bereaved individuals need only express their feelings in order to resolve their mourning.
· To be healthy after the death of a loved one, the mourner must put that person out of mind.
· Grief will affect the mourner psychologically but will not interfere in other ways.
· Intensity and length of mourning are a testimony to love for the deceased.
· When one mourns a death, one mourns only the loss of that person and nothing else.
· Losing someone to a sudden, unexpected death is the same as losing someone to an anticipated death.
· Mourning is over in a year.
· Time heals all wounds.
My second list is from Common Misconceptions about Healing – by Dee Ann Miller, RN, BS and can be viewed at the following link …
http://healingfromabuse.webs.com/apps/forums/topics/show/4341677-common-misconceptions-about-healing
Teryn’s article really fits right in with what these other lists expose as myths surrounding healing and grief. Thanks again.