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It’s Time We Stood Together – Its Time To Eliminate SOL Laws


My friend and colleague, Marjorie McKinnon, director of The Lamplighters, posted this saying and I believe it sums up everything we should do as organizations working toward the same goal – “We must all stand together, so that no one must stand alone.”

I’ve been speaking with Marci A. Hamilton, because I was thinking of forming a 501(c)(4) in order to work more in the area of changing/reforming statute of limitation laws that dealt with sex crimes against children. But since, as a 501(c)(3) we are allowed to use up to 20% of our time/resources to work in this area, she brought up a great point and I wanted to share it with you. Before I do, you should know why I called Marci.

She is a nationally recognized professor, religion/state scholar, and a leading attorney in major clergy sex abuse cases. She is the leading national expert on child sex abuse statutes of limitations, and maintains the cutting edge website,, which contains up-to-date information on this vital social movement in all 50 states. She is frequently asked to advise Congress and state legislatures on the constitutionality of pending legislation and to consult in cases involving important constitutional issues. Professor Hamilton is the author of Justice Denied: What America Must Do to Protect Its Children (Cambridge University Press 2008, 2012) and God vs. the Gavel: Religion and the Rule of Law (Cambridge University Press 2005, 2007), which won the Silver Medal, Foreword Magazine Political Science Book of the Year Award, Political Science in 2005 and she is a visiting professor at Princeton University, New York University School of Law, Emory University School of Law, and the Princeton Theological Seminary.

She suggested, rather than starting over, why not pool our resources and work together with other groups already established to change the laws. So with that in mind I’m reaching out to everyone. Join with us to eliminate SOL laws that protect pedophiles/sexual predators and impede justice for survivors of CSA.

Rather than working alone and at times even against the grain, I believe we, and all survivors would be better served by this combination of resources. I’m so tired of a few organizations being more worried about “eyeballs on websites” and who gets what donor money. Isn’t this supposed to be about our fellow survivors of CSA? If so, if you really believe this, then email me and Marci so we can add your name and organization to the list and website of those already working together and lets get this done!

I am going to send some direct emails to those of you I believe will be on board but I also wanted to get this out there for everyone. Please join us in changing these outdated laws that protect the criminals and re-victimize those who’ve already suffered.

Let me say this again, if you really believe as we do, then step up and join us in this fight. This is an area we can make meaningful change, long-term, in the lives of survivors past, present and future. For those in the past, like myself, it shows our efforts and what we been through won’t be in vain. And for those present and future…the results will be self-evident.

We need your company name, logo, primary contact name and email address.

To see what is happening on SOL reform, visit Prof. Hamilton’s website It is regularly updated.

Email either of us at:

David Pittman –
Marci A. Hamilton –

If not for yourself, then do this for those now and in the future.

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Author: Together We Heal

In 2006 David took the first step in a long and painful journey back from the abyss of addiction and self-destruction. He promised his dying father that he would get clean. And he did. But as he cleaned his body and soul, he began to confront the sexual abuse that his addiction had for so long obscured — abuse perpetrated by a church youth minister when David was 12 to 15 years old. Those three years of abuse destroyed the foundation of love and faith that had been built by his family. For 25 years, David kept the abuse secret and lost himself in a fog of drugs and alcohol. He was by turns destitute, at times incarcerated. The promise to his dying father was the catalyst. And the bedrock of his mother’s love and devotion was the foundation on which David rebuilt his life. Therapy, 12-step meetings, and soul-deep determination were the bricks and mortar. David founded Together We Heal to provide fellow survivors and their families, guidance through the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. In 2015 he was asked to become a part of the Child Safeguarding Initiative team with GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment) to empower the Christian community through education and training to recognize, prevent, and respond to child abuse. David represents Together We Heal & GRACE across the country as a public speaker and instructor; teaching churches, schools, and families how to talk with their kids about sexual abuse, how to better identify predatory behavior, and how to properly respond to those harmed. "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” - Dr. Seuss

17 thoughts on “It’s Time We Stood Together – Its Time To Eliminate SOL Laws

  1. Until only a few months ago, I suffered for 44 years because of my distorted thing and denial as to my own sexual abuse victimization. Thank you for your experience, strength, hope, and tireless work, David.
    We’ll be talking!


  2. At NAASCA we talk about the need for this almost every night, post a lot of articles on it, blog about it. I personally blog about it and explain it to everyone who will listen. I brought it up when I testified in front of the DoJ in 2011 as something that needed to be done to protect children. And I have spoken to the experts you mentioned in this article. Yes, this needs to change, and as part of it we need to get rid of authoritative, legislative, and judicial immunity, because in many cases, it is the judges, lawyers, case workers, or other government employees that were responsible for the abuse, or at least for allowing it to happen, so getting rid of SoL’s still won’t help many of us while those people are still protected. Bottom line, the needs of children should come first. I am happy to help in any way possible, as doing this is long overdue. Please keep me posted with whatever you decide to do.


  3. You have my support .I’m a CSA survivor. Darlene L. Scott @ Author of What A Nice Guy! on Amazon. A book written for parents and children on how to detect the behaviors of sexual predators. 

    Faith has no fear


  4. As of today, I do not work for anyone. However, I am willing to stand against pedophiles. My name and email address is: Susan Anderson—– I will do what I can.

    Thank you


  5. Here in California, Governor Brown vetoed a modest reform of the SOL. I strongly support eliminating all time limitations, both criminal and civil, when a child is sexually assaulted.


  6. Sadly Gov Brown is probably not even mentally sound and is being propped up by others. Keep up the fight! We must persevere – something as survivors we are good at.

    I’m not with a company but I’m with you on this. I will do what I can to help other states come to reality. I’m in my own fight to see my abuser in court. Thankfully, the laws in NC are helpful in that there is no statute of limitation for the criminal offense. As one comment pointed out, I don’t know what lies ahead in terms of judges and attorneys. Not at that step yet…BUT, I am going to pursue to the fullest I can.

    God bless this endeavor!!


  7. Make sure you include NPEIV in your list…we are all working towards this issue as well.


  8. should be no time limit, they murdered a soul, a heart, a bright life.


  9. Reblogged this on Sharon Scott on life and current news and commented:
    This is important! As a survivor of CSA, I know the pain of not being able to see justice done!


  10. I contacted Marci Hamilton via the web site of SOL-Reform when we were trying to determine the Statutes of Limitations in Louisiana. That is how we learned the statutes changed in August 2012 and she had everything to do with that change occurring.

    As soon as we have a logo that can change sizes without losing resolution, we will stand beside you, behind you, or wherever we are needed. As a child and young adult, I was unaware that Child Sexual Abuse was widespread and Victims of CSA should report to law enforcement officers.

    37 years later, I knew to report to police but the Attorney General and the FBI incorrectly informed me that the statutes of limitations in Louisiana prevented prosecution of the sex offender and rapist. After Marci Hamilton assisted with the knowledge of the changed statutes, we are making headway in reporting one of the most prolific pedophiles, who remains free to this date.

    We live and we learn! I am excited to help change or entirely do away with statutes of limitation for child sexual abuse and rape.


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