For many of us raised in a religious setting, but also endured childhood sexual abuse at the hands of a minister, this time of year can be a conflict of emotions. For me, there was a time when I abandoned the organization I felt had abandoned me and my fellow survivors. Except for weddings or a funerals, I wouldn’t darken the doors of any church. I would go so far as to say, for a time, I held God responsible for what happened to me and had genuine feelings of hatred toward The Church and God.

It wasn’t until I spent many years working with a therapist and in a group therapy setting, that I realized what happened to me wasn’t God’s fault. However, The Church’s failure to take action, support those who’d had been harmed and take steps to prevent these predators from hurting other children, still causes great pain and still has no excuse.

That said, I read something today that I think applies to Easter and survivors.

“I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, after all, to matter: to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all” ~ Leo C. Rosten.

For those who subscribe to Christianity, Jesus stood for something and made a difference in lives. Applying that to survivors of abuse, we too can make a choice, take a stand, make a difference in the lives of our fellow survivors and help prevent this from happening to future generations of children.

For those that know me, and have been keeping up with all that Together We Heal is doing, you know we most definitely have passion, compassion, are taking responsibility and doing all we can to take actions for this cause.

So as we go forward today, in acknowledging the resurrection of Jesus, let’s apply this most critical of moments in His life to our own lives. We can resurrect our destroyed lives. We can restore what was taken. We can have our lives count for something. We can because we have survived a death of our own.

I’m not saying this because I believe all survivors should feel exactly like I do. And I certainly understand if you have reservations about anything having to do with any religious organization. I write this to give you words of encouragement, to let you know that if I can make it through to this point in my recovery, I know others can too. But I don’t believe it should be forced onto anyone, by anyone. This is on your terms and in your own time.

With this perspective, I hope we all can look at today as a day where we are no longer shackled by the weight of guilt, shame and self-blame. We can experience a rebirth and resurrection for ourselves. We can because together…we can truly heal.

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