Together We Heal

Together We Heal is for any who suffer from the trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse. We are here to provide a safe forum for survivors of abuse to share, learn and heal, give direction to those seeking guidance and to expose sexual predators for what they are and their methods of getting into our lives.


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Some Secrets Should Never be Kept

While I am not in the mindset of “pushing goods” on this blog, there is a children’s book that you MUST get if you have any children in your life. Whether they are your children or someone else’s, please help make the topic of childhood sexual abuse just ever so slightly easier to broach with them by using this remarkable tool.

The author is Jayneen (Jay) Sanders and she is an Australian author, teacher and mother of three daughters. And on a personal note, she is a delightfully caring woman.

Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept is a beautifully illustrated picture book that sensitively broached the subject of keeping our children safe from sexual abuse. We teach our children road safety and water safety but how do we teach our children essential skills in self-protection? Through story we can discuss difficult topics. This book was written to help parents, teachers and health care providers broach the subject in a non-threatening way. It is an important book and one that all children need to hear. Forewarned is forearmed and if a situation like the one Sir Alfred encountered in the story were to happen to a child, they could draw on what they have learned and speak up! 

Please see a YouTube clip of Debra Byrne, Australian actress and singer (herself a survivor of childhood sexual abuse) read Some Secrets.

http://youtu.be/4YjJ1MreZqs

For more info about the book, testimonials and sample pages the website is:

www.somesecrets.info

I believe this is an important book, one of great value to both parents and professionals. Age range: 3 to 12 years. Discussion questions are featured in the back of the book to facilitate open dialogue with the children.

With 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys being sexually abused before they reach 18 years old and with 93% of those kids knowing their perpetrator, it is crucial we teach body safety to our kids. We need parents to make ‘body safety’ just a normal part of their parenting conversation.

See also these articles re: Some Secrets

http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/drive/drawing-room3a-martin-flanagan-and-jayneen-sanders/3967612

http://m.smh.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/a-childrens-book-about-sex-abuse-lets-discuss-20120504-1y48j.html

http://www.theage.com.au/entertainment/books/telling-the-story-of-child-abuse-means-giving-children-tools-to-speak-out-says-author-20120301-1u60i.html

http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/a-book-to-help-talk-to-kids-about-sexual-abuse/

http://www.chantellebaxter.com/some-secrets-should-never-be-kept

http://melindatankardreist.com/2012/04/some-secrets-should-never-be-kept-new-book-to-help-parents-and-kids-discuss-inappropriate-touch/

And believe it or not, neither myself nor this foundation are making one penny from this endorsement – I just know that if someone had read a book like this to me as a child, there is a chance I may not have been a victim of childhood sexual abuse. While there are no guarantees, as we all know, knowledge is power, and as a child I had neither, and the end result was a 2 1/2 year systematic destruction of my innocence, childhood and faith in those around me.

GET the book, READ the book and most importantly, TALK about the book WITH your children.

Anything that might help protect your children from the hands of a sexual predator is a priceless investment.

Respectfully

David Pittman